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one of the biggest insecurities of my adult life thus far has been how i look. by this, i mean how i physically look. i used to sometimes feel ugly but most of the times, i didn't know and this not knowing amplified my insecurity.

over the past year, i've become increasingly comfortable in my own skin and with how i look and whilst i may never be completely secure about my appearance, i sure do feel i'm on that path. i feel good being me.

Date: Jan. 12th, 2014 01:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Good outlook. What are some of your strong points appearance-wise?

Date: Jan. 12th, 2014 07:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
there doesn't seem to be one thing, but everything.

i've grown into myself, and it's taken this long to come to grips with my how i look, whereas i feel most people hit that period around 18 & 19?

Date: Jan. 16th, 2014 11:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I hear most people don't feel really comfortable in their own skin until they hit 40, but that could just be a marketing thing. I used to feel completely comfortable and not think about it at all until I hit 18 and got less confident. Now i'm getting more confident again. The confidence has nothing to do with how you actually look, I think it's more to do with how much you care about what other people think, heh. I put on a lot of weight in my mid-twenties and felt bad about it, but now I figure, as long as i'm healthy and happy, who cares? As much as i'd like to think that my internal body image comes from within, i'm afraid I think I have been heavily influenced by those around me and the media, as I believe has most people's ideas of what they should and shouldn't look like...

It's good that you are feeling good about being you. That's the best people can hope for, I think.

Date: Feb. 22nd, 2014 11:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
you're right. i have started to care what other people think of me to a much greater extent over the past year and so i look more like how other people expect others to look. that means i'm received better by others and so i feel more confident and comfortable in my own skin.

i have no illusions, my body image comes from objectively judging myself against other people i see in my everyday life and the media. i'm sure that if everyone started to dress like medieval peasants and that became the norm, so would i, i just don't know to what extent and i'm guessing this would then reveal how much i actually cared about how i look.

and Zoe, you have always been beautiful in my eyes and will forever continue to be beautiful.